Saturday, 22 November 2014

The negative truth about -ships~

 Holla~ for today's entry.. I'll ramble on something negative. This is the truth! No, this is just my negative opinion. Though I am usually an optimistic person.. well everyone has that pessimistic part in them somewhere. And the more optimistic you are, there is always that one pessimistic trait that makes you go "WTF man! You sick b*strd" to yourself and down right want to hang yourself for even thinking that way.
 Now, on to the topic. I'll talk ramble about the expected friendship, and relationships... look at all them -shits BE SERIOUS ADDAM!

  Friendship is all about sharing good/bad memories, hardships, and helping one another. Wao!~ very noble that I might shed crocodile tears. People go about that true friendship is all about honesty and not expecting anything in return, and tolerance and accepting. Truth be said, I don't believe that people can be honest and expect nothing in return.. unless you are a Saint (Bless you, mother Theresa!). a very heavy word to put onto someone. When a friend treats his/her friend with care and compassion, don't tell me that that friend would not expect to be treated the same in return?.. OF COURSE HE/SHE DOES! if you answer otherwise.. well, you are a Saint (If you are, please stop reading as it may cause some ego and morale damage..Super effective!). 
  You disagree? well, let's put it this way.. You have a friend and you treat that friend with care, compassion and all the colors of the rainbow in hoping that the friend will treat you the same in return. Everyone has different capabilities, personalities, and views.. thus have different ways of showing their affection back. But then the friend does not feel the same way back at you.. how would you feel? Sad? Distraught? Well, now u are expecting something back... So where is your "I'm honest and didn't expect anything in return?" 
  If you are going to put "Well, it's ethical to return the favor"..kudos to you, you have just contradicted yourself. The fact is, whether the friend returns the same affection is up to that friend... we feel that it is an obligation to return the affection because we desire the same thing. We often force our ideals and action onto the friend without considering that friend's capability to return back the favor. Don't go and say "It is normal to return the favor".. because it is not. Now, who is expecting from who now?, not just couples or's connection with people. Everyone expects that relationships, especially close ones were meant to last forever (mind that I said expect). Even when we know it will end someday..could be tomorrow or next 10 years. But when the end is approaching, we get so caught up in the anxiety or fear that the emotions overwhelm us to the point that we unexpectedly end the relationship early or end it on the spot. Because we mistakenly force our worries on the other party to the point that it chokes them and made them feel uneasy. 
   Human relationships are a fragile thing... today's friends is tomorrow enemies or vice versa. We can argue all about that the other party should understand us or we should have mutual understanding.          But the fact remains that humans can never come about understanding each other. We can only reach a certain degree of understanding then that will our maximum degree of understanding and from there on is just tolerance and rejection. Relationships like everything in this world, is meant to end, question is how are we going to end it? On our selfish desires to keep up the relationship? or just enjoy every present moment with each other? You may answer the 2nd one, but are you sure? are you least worried?

    All of these I have said, are just my negative opinions... but I do have positive ones regarding these above. Yes, friendship often forces the other friend to return the same affection... but it teaches the other friend compassion, care, and to be a better person. Just don't go burdening and forcing too much on the poor fella. Relationships are meant to end.. that is the fact! SO LETS GO BATSHIT CRAZY! 
   Sabar Addam, dah nak hbs da nih...ehem.. 
  So we should enjoy every second of each other's company and not force or burden ourselves until we ignore our personal responsibilities or worse strangle the other party with our fear and worries. It is like enjoying a nice hot cup of awesome coffee, we take sips and enjoy every moment of it..not gulping down or putting a straw and sucking it up a tight tube, then the coffee will taste awful. I am a laid back person, and I like to enjoy every second of my time with people as long as I am capable. (Though I often find my laptop more interesting.. that I apologize) gotta plan on being a NEET with income in 5 years time. 

Let's keep it simple

Love is about appreciation

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